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Anonymous asked: About six months ago i completely ditched by best friends. i was bored and for some reason i thought i preferred people i barely even knew. I have apologised and we talk now but it is so different. Ive grown up alot and i am honestly ashamed and disgusted at what a selfish,superficial bitch ive been, and i miss my best friend so much(sorry this is long will carry on in another ask)
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Anonymous asked: ... and it kills me that she probably still hates me and has every reason to. I have apologised in the past by text but never acted on my actions, i said a porper sorry this summer and things have been getting better but i have no idea how to gain her trust back and i feel like she doesn't want me around. it's getting to me so much now, we were like sisters and ive been horrible:'( thankyouxx
Show her that you really care and that you weren’t thinking about what you were doing when you ditched all your friends. People make mistakes and if she’s mature enough she’ll understand that. If she really did care about you, it might take a lot for her to want to go back to what you had but at the same time it might take no time at all because of how close you were. Just remind her that you do care about her and you’re not interested in being friends with any other people that you don’t even know. Obviously you can have other friends but if I was her I would want to feel like you really cared about me and wanted our friendship back.
I hope this has helped x
Anonymous asked: I have a friend.. and she left for college today. we met in elementary school n lost touch but FB reunited us n we realized that we actually get along really well (we weren't very close in elementary). so we've been hangin out occasionally (havin a blast when we do) n talkin for the last 5 months n of course we text cuz we're 18 n that's what we do. but she hasn't talked to me at all since monday but she's talkin to other people. do you think I said something wrong? :( what should I do?
No not necessarily :-) just start up a conversation with her, see how she’s doing etc.. Sometimes I don’t talk to my best friend for days but we’re still as close as ever :-) If you know you haven’t done anything wrong then you probably haven’t but just talk to her, she might not even realise that she’s making you think you did. Hope this helped :-) x
tlinks asked: Hi. I am reading your blogs or advices and help. What made you decided to come up with this idea?
Hello :-) good question! Well I have another blog which is just a normal, summery, fashiony type of blog and I was getting kind of bored with it. I follow a few people that give advice and I thought it was a really nice idea to be able to help someone, even just a little bit. So I made this blog and voila! I love helping people and hearing positive feedback :-)
Anonymous asked: I don't know my grandparents or any family really and I can't tell anyone he says if I do he'll beat me up and he will and i cant tell anyone cause of that.. i'm scared though of what'll happen.. if i react to him it gives him a reason to get madder but if i dont he just does more horrible stuff til i do, he locks me in cupboards and he cut the word whore into my arm because he found out some texts between me and a guy and i cant tell a teacher cause they all hate me and my friends would judge:[
Okay, I can see how this is a very tough situation for you..but you either want this to stop or you don’t. The only way that it will stop is if you make someone else aware that this is going on. Your friends wouldn’t judge you because if they did, to be honest they’re not really worth being friends with. The teachers don’t hate you, maybe you’re not their favourite student but in a case like this, it’s their job to help and guide you through it. Please please please don’t just sit in silence because then nothing will change. I promise you, even if it seems like your dad will get very angry if he knew you told anyone, that’s the only way things will get better.
You posted this anon so I couldn’t reply privately but if you want me to delete this, come off anon and we’ll carry on chatting privately. <3
elcuartodeatras asked: Everything that you told me is true, and I have to make decisions but I guess that I can wait, maybe in a while I could think the things better and make the right decision. Thank you so much for read and think on me just one moment, I know that I can talk to you if I need somebody. You're awesome.
Aww thank you so much. Sorry that I haven’t answered this yet, I was on holiday but yes..you can come back here any time you need to :-) keep smiling!
elcuartodeatras asked: I don't know maybe, maybe is just something wrong with me, I mean, I feel like I don't need a boyfriend, I mean I love this guy but I'm not like DUDE, I NEED A BOYFRIEND, I'M GONNA DIE. I'm okay being alone, I've been single the last three years and I'm really well with that, I like having time with myself, could be with friends, just party, without something constant like a boyfriend, am I wrong? Because you know, all the people is always like "Boyfriends, girlfriends, I wanna have one!" and always I'm like, "I don't need one". For this reason is that I'm too hard to get, It's really hard make me fall in love, and because of that I miss him so bad because he is one of the couples that could make me feel in love.
am I wrong? Sometimes I feel like something weird.
You don’t ever need to have a boyfriend..It’s not something that everyone needs. People die at the age of 90 having never married or even had a boyfriend and they’re perfectly fine. You’re not wrong at all. You shouldn’t go looking for love because love finds you. If you look for it everyday, chances are you won’t ever find it. Just be happy with the life you have at the moment and someday you will meet someone and you’ll look back on this guy and think “damn, he was so not worth it” .. There are many other people out there, you just need to be patient :-)
Anonymous asked: I am freaking out becuase my parents just found out my hidden stahs of pills of adderal whic is like cocanie. They kind of knew I was usuign but had no proof so they could not do anything as they work during the dya so I could high and b OK by the time they got home but now they found out and took my pills and I dont know what to di becuase like I need them, I dont know hot to survivie without them. i love the high liek I need it. I am freaking out and they only dound out cuz I went to get more and forgot to hide them. so now I am high from the pills I brought but they found out I had more and they took them and i came back and they sent me to my room so they could talk and figure out how to deal with ym drug problem and they want to send me to rehab and I am freaking out and scared and crying! I am scared of rehab! I am terrified of going, it just freaks me out!I have not slept or eaten in days cuz I have just been high and I wont sleep tonight becuase i ma high from the pills I brought. They are like speed and like i dont know what to like I am freaking and like what happens if they call the cops or like wont let me out of the house to get more pills cuz when the high wears off I will feel terrible and like what happens if they already called the cops and I will be arresrted and then be in jail or like they could have already called the rehab place. I keep feeling liek bugs are crawling on my skin and I need to scarcth them off or get them off! Like I am terrified and scared and I dont knwo what to do. I am just sititng in my room,just shaking and crying!
Wow. First of all, you need to chill out. They’re your parents and no matter how disappointed in you they might be they still care about you so I’m sure they wouldn’t let you go to jail or anything drastic like that. They might just try and get you some help so you can deal with your addiction. You’re only experiencing the side effects from the pills so don’t worry. You need to just remain calm, not freak out or go silly. Everything will be fine, I promise :-)
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